Practicing any of the Connection Habits™ will create a moment of positivity. This will improve your health and well-being, benefitting you and the people around you. One thing to understand about our brains is that they don’t actually multitask all that well, if at all. Here is a quick test if you don’t believe me. When we multitask, we are actually switching quickly back and forth between 2 thoughts and this reduces our effectiveness. For the vast majority of people, focusing in a meaningful way on 2 things at the same time is simply not possible.
Another thing to understand about our brains is that we not only have habitual actions, we also have habitual ways of thinking, and how we habitually think makes a huge difference to our health and effectiveness. So what happens when you consider multi-tasking and habitual ways of thinking together? Here is how to take advantage of those scientific facts.
How to Use the Multitasking Myth to Your Advantage
What we are thinking becomes how we are “being”, which in turn results in the actions we take. For example, you can easily see that if someone is being loving, or being angry, different actions will naturally occur. This means that in order to create your desired outcomes, all you need to do is control what you are thinking. Easy right? Not so fast…
Buddhists say that your life is a product of the thoughts that you plant in the garden of your mind. Now, thankfully for those who have doubted this wisdom, science has caught up with thousands of years of teaching and is actually proving this to be true. If you want to know what you have been thinking, simply observe your results. What does this have to do with the Connection Habits? They change our thoughts and the way we are being so that we go from the fight or flight response and into a more relaxed and positive frame of mind.
Do This Exercise
Take a moment to answer this question right now: what was successful about your day? Go ahead and do that now, I can wait… Firstly, you may have noticed that the answer wasn’t on the tip of your tongue. This is because we are biologically programmed to be scanning our environment for threats, and in modern society that often translates into thinking endlessly about your problems and ignoring what was successful about your day. Secondly, you may have been aware, that for a brief moment, you were not worried or stressed about the future. Lastly, you may have noticed yourself being immediately critical and dismissive of that success. That is a habitual way of thinking. If you didn’t actually do the exercise, take a moment to do it now and see if you can notice those three things.
Our physical wellness is closely linked to our mental wellness, and our physical health is severely impacted by how stressed we are. In fact, According to the American Psychological Association, chronic stress is linked to the six leading causes of death: heart disease, cancer, lung ailments, accidents, cirrhosis of the liver, and suicide.
When you practice the Connection Habits and integrate them into your daily routine, you are not only doing an important action that will impact your own stress levels and physical well-being, you are also taking care of the people around you. Master the Connection Habits and people will love being around you because you will be making them happier and healthier.
Remember, science says you can’t hold 2 thoughts in your head at the same time, so you can be loving or you can be stressed, but you can’t be both. What are you going to choose?
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